Christian Community is the Work
Leading when we do not know how growth happens
Focus on Relationships
Prayer
Gospel Reading
Most boards assume the “real work” is the business portion of the meeting, and relationships are what we squeeze in if time allows. Jesus reverses that.
In John 13, on the night before his death, Jesus does not give his disciples a better org chart or a tighter agenda. He gives them a command that becomes the public marker of discipleship: “Love one another… By this everyone will know.” In other words, the world won’t primarily evaluate the church by our efficiency. It will read the church by our relationships.
Tonight we’re going to treat that as a leadership issue, not a sentimental one: our relational life is part of our fiduciary responsibility to the gospel. If our trust erodes, everything else becomes harder—discernment, decisions, mission, even worship.
Let’s listen carefully.
John 13:1–17
Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet
Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet
Jesus Foretells Betrayal
The New Commandment
Jesus Foretells Peter’s Denial
Notes
Notes
Vocabulary
Vocabulary
When Jesus knows his “hour” has come and that the Father has put “all things” into his hands, what posture does he choose—and what does that reveal about mature leadership under pressure?
Jesus lays aside his outer garment, takes a towel, pours water, and washes feet. What, in this text, is being “laid aside,” and what is being “taken up”? What might that require of us as leaders?
Peter cannot bear to be served: “You shall never wash my feet.” Where do you resist receiving care, correction, or humility—and what does Jesus insist must be received for real fellowship with him?
Jesus speaks of being “clean,” and still needing washing. What does that teach you about faithful community over time—especially among committed people who still carry weakness, wounds, or strain?
Jesus moves from example to obligation: “You also ought to wash one another’s feet.” What would “footwashing” look like among us in the next month—one concrete practice that would make love visible in how we speak, listen, disagree, and repair?
Footwashing is not just an example of humility. It is a picture of the kind of community Jesus intends to form. Now we listen for the sentence that names it plainly—what he expects of his disciples, and how the world will recognize them.
Let’s listen carefully.
John 13:34–35
The New Commandment
Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet
Jesus Foretells Betrayal
The New Commandment
Jesus Foretells Peter’s Denial
Notes
Notes
Vocabulary
Vocabulary
When we disagree, love is tested. What is one practice that would help us debate rigorously in private, decide clearly, and then communicate responsibly in public—so we model a mending community in a fractured world?
Jesus doesn’t say “love as you prefer,” but “love one another as I have loved you.” What would need to change in us for Jesus’s way of loving—humble, costly, initiating, concrete—to become our normal pattern with one another?
Check-In & Mutual Prayer
By washing feet, Jesus carried the weight of life and ministry for his friends. Where do you need us to carry a weight with you today—through prayer and presence (not fixing)?
What is one place right now where you need to be “washed” by grace—help, forgiveness, clarity, courage, or rest?
Is there one relationship—in the church or in your life—where you sense a next step of mending is needed? (You can name it generally if details aren’t appropriate.)
Focus on the Future
A Righteous Risk Conversation
Purpose
Take one righteous risk that embodies John 13: a small, time-bound practice of “footwashing” that reduces clique dynamics, strengthens belonging, and trains us to carry one another with integrity—so our public witness is not performance, but the fruit of real community.
Naming the Barriers
Think of someone new, returning, grieving, or spiritually curious in the life of the church or presbytery. What are the real hurdles to becoming a vital part of this community?
Examples:
- Safety to approach (emotional, social, cultural, theological, practical)
- First impressions (welcome without pressure; clarity without overwhelm)
- Belonging pathway (a place to share and receive care, not just attend)
- Meaningful contribution (using gifts without gatekeeping or politics)
- Voice and agency (opinions heard; feedback invited; dignity protected)
Guidance:
Each person around the table should name one barrier they believe is the most real in our context.
Choose One Barrier to Reduce
Which barrier, if lowered, would most increase the chances that a newcomer becomes connected within 60 days?
Pick one for the season. (This avoids “we should do everything.”)
Generate Options
Name 5 options to address the barrier. Include creative people in the conversation and/or use an AI tool to help generate ideas.
Select and Define a Limited Experiment
Through prayer, discussion, and discernment, define:
- the experiment
- the start date
- the end date
- the debriefing date
- it’s goal
- how success will be measured
Time Budget
Some of the most important work of the board meeting has already taken place–focusing on vision and relationships. About 70% of the board meeting has been completed.
Advise and Counsel
Each team or committee as an opportunity to seek advice and guidance from the board based on the larger board strategy and goals.
Action Items
Each team or committee as an opportunity offer action items to the board in pre-written motions.
Management and Structure
Management and structural requirements are import, but cannot be in the drivers seat. Such issues balance relationships and vision, but do not overcome them.
Benediction and Blessing
Scripture on this page is from The Shared Word Translation (SWT), an ongoing translation project within ChurchCommons.org.